|The Girl Boyfriend
||[Oct. 22nd, 2007|02:37 pm]
Caveat: I think once you get away from basic biology, many male/female traits are social constructs using two seperate gender descriptions for one behavior. Yet at the same time, I enjoy taking about the difference as much as anyone.|
The other day, I was laid up after dental surgery, wallowing in self-pity and pain. When I spoke to Deadend Margo on the phone, I was in a rather emotional state.
That evening, Margo came over straight from work. She was carrying a huge boquet of flowers and was dressed her preferred work outfit of pants, jacket and big clunky shoes. She strode in but the front door wasn't completely ajar and it banged her arm and she growled "Goddamn motherfucker!" while thrusting out the flowers.
"Wow," I said, "You are my Girl Boyfriend - swearing, strong and carrying pretty things meant to placate my high maintence ass."
I haven't yet fully worked out the concept of the Girl Boyfriend (and conversely, the Boy Girlfriend), but I think many of you out there could run with it. One doesn't have to be a jeans and boots type to be a Girl Boyfriend, just be the dude (by normative standards) in a romantic transaction.
So far I've noticed one telling moment: If you've thought or said, "God, quit being such a bitch." when dealing with him, you're a girl boyfriend.
Guilty as charged.
Several are the times I've been told I'm the butch one in the relationship. When what I really want is, for lack of a better word, a switch. No more rebel bottoms!
Interestingly, despite my attraction to potential Girl Boyfriend types, I've had many friends who have been Boy Girlfriends to the extent where it has irritated even me, so I think I have the potential to either be a Classic Boyfriend or a Boy Girlfriend. It'd be interesting to see how it works out, whether one or the other or an exact 50/50.
Yeah that'd probably be me.
Yup, in that category. Or at least perilously close to it. Actually, I think we're both just sharing and trading all the girl/boy stuff on a regular basis.
i think i'm a boy girlfriend. i find myself often in interactions thinking "this is really what a girl would be doing in my place."
this is a very useful concept, thanks.
I love it. It's also easy to get confused and forget which gender is supposed to be which, which is as it should be in my world. As it is, I am frequently the Dinner Providing One but also the One Who Gets Rid of Insects, Brings Flowers, and Deals With Customer Service.
Also, that scene with Deadend Margo sounds totally hot.
Thanks for this - I feel caught in such a gendered world most of the time, even without Hallmark in my direct line of sight that this commentary is a relief, even though I think there are even more sides to it. I am definitely not a girl girlfriend.
my girl friend and i got through this all the time because people frequently ask us which one of us is the boy and automated response has become neither of us we're both girls- but she does act more like a goy (girl-boy) and even if i do all the car maintainence stuff and buy flowers for her. but i also cook, clean, wash our clothes. i'm so confused.